Sensuality
Ritual
Intention: To awaken the sensuality within.
Timing: Whenever you wish--but particularly when you feel disconnected from
your sexual self; before bed is an ideal time, but you can perform this ritual
any time--just give yourself at least an hour and a half to enjoy it.
Ingredients: Red candle (passion), essence of ylang-ylang or jasmine (sensuality),
your favorite perfume, chocolate (sensuality), a fragrant lotion, and sensuous
music. Optional: silk sheets (sensuality). Prepare this wonderful tonic to
drink at the close of this ritual, which will delight your senses and unleash
your nascent sensuality: Blend 1 cup of papaya juice, 1/4 cup of mashed banana,
1/4 cup watermelon juice, and 1 teaspoon cloves (optional). Or you might prefer
to mix a cup of milk with a dash of cinnamon and a splash of rose water. If
none of these are available set out hot chocolate, grape juice, or a glass
of red wine.
Recipe: Create a sensual atmosphere that will entice your inner seductress
to come out of hiding. Find a time when no one will disturb you. Turn off
the phones. Put fresh sheets on your bed--silk would be great! Turn down the
lights, and light the candle. Place a few drops of the essential oil in a
diffuser.
Anoint yourself with your favorite
perfume, concentrating on the areas between your breasts and near your pubic
bone. Lie down on your back with your knees bent and open. Begin to inhale,
slowly and deeply, to the count of four; then, exhale in the same manner.
Now experience your breathing as if the air were moving through your vulva.
Continue until you feel these breaths connecting you to your deepest being.
Let the breath flow like a river of energy. Feel the fluidity--the sensuality--and
envision a passionate woman inside who wants to talk to you. Imagine that
she wants to tell you about herself. Ask her questions: What kinds of clothes
does she like? What are her favorite foods? What makes her happy emotionally,
physically? What is her relationship with your body? How does she like to
be touched? What does she want from you?
Allow this energy--which emanates from your passionate being--to infuse you.
Remember this is your own creation, a part of your self, so don't censor any
words or feelings. Be open to learning.
When you're ready, get up slowly.
Run a warm bath, adding the oils of your choice. Start your favorite music,
and set the candle near the tub. Let your body melt into the fragrant water,
touching yourself in whatever ways feel best.
Afterward, dry off with a warm
towel. Look into a mirror, with the
willing ness to see your own beauty. Take a few deep cleansing
breaths. When you
feel relaxed and ready, look at your face in the mirror. Just look. If
criticisms or judgments come up, acknowledge them, then
let them go. Focus on the uniqueness
that is you, reflected in your face. Look
at your face and body and allow yourself to feel compassion, tenderness, acceptance
and love.
Begin putting lotion on your feet, massaging
it into the skin. Say to yourself, “My feet are beautiful.” Next, massage the lotion
into your legs and tell yourself, “My legs are beautiful,” and so on up the
rest of your body. When
you are finished enjoying the beauty of your body, move on to your face. Say to yourself, “ My
eyes are beautiful.” Look at your nose
and tell yourself, “My nose is beautiful.”
Then your forehead, cheeks, mouth, lips, ears skin, bone structure.
When
you have acknowledged your entire body, take a deep breath and look in the
mirror. Tell yourself: “ I (name) am beautiful.” Say
it over and over. Allow yourself to
bathe in appreciation of your own beauty, till you feel the tingle of love
and delight throughout your body and soul. Continue for as long as you wish.
Now, get back into bed, and drink your
wonderful tonic. Sip it slowly. Let yourself feel
and become that sensual woman. Fantasize, fantasize, fantasize, and immerse
yourself in the feeling of hedonistic delight.
Follow-up:
Spend a few moments every day appreciating the sensuality of your body. Keep
fragrant oils, perfumes, and scented candles in your bedroom and bathroom